In school we were taught to strive for 100%. Our successes were based on this number and what it meant. If you wanted to get all the answers right and achieve a perfect score, then you had to reach 100. A few years back, after a series of life situations that were, definitely not perfect, I decided to revert back to my school days. I decided life shouldn’t be any different and I would create my life, on a scale of 100%. In other words I learned to set some standards for myself.
At a time when relationships were less than mediocre, and my career seemed to be heading into the twenty percentile; I realized I was aiming too low. Or rather, I was settling for less. What would it take for me to make the changes I needed to get that 100%? The relationship, the career, the location; all the things I longed for, but wasn’t living up to par.
It’s amazing what can happen when you start establishing guidelines for yourself. But first you need to let go of the things that are holding you back.
I knew I deserved more than the half committal man I was dating. And I thought I was worth more than the temporary office position I was working. The question was, even though it made sense logically, why couldn’t I make the changes emotionally? Ideas are fantastic in theory, but actually believing- well that is an entirely different monster to conquer.
I had to remember something that my good friend Megan taught me. When you let something go from your life, whether it is a person, a job, or that old cocktail dress that hasn’t fit you for years (I’ll wear it again, one day,…right?) the loss is difficult. All those things-represent who you once were (ahhh the days when I looked absolutely fab in that dress!) Megan eloquently put it as, “Even if what you have is only 75%-when it’s gone, the loss is still 100%!”
Wow. What a concept. Think about that for a moment. When it’s gone, you loose 100% of it-even if it wasn’t entirely what you wanted. That is quite a good bye for something that wasn’t entirely fulfilling to begin with. Now wonder people grieve so deeply when it (what ever it is) has significant meaning. I guess, it’s because, for a series of mo
At a time when relationships were less than mediocre, and my career seemed to be heading into the twenty percentile; I realized I was aiming too low. Or rather, I was settling for less. What would it take for me to make the changes I needed to get that 100%? The relationship, the career, the location; all the things I longed for, but wasn’t living up to par.
It’s amazing what can happen when you start establishing guidelines for yourself. But first you need to let go of the things that are holding you back.
I knew I deserved more than the half committal man I was dating. And I thought I was worth more than the temporary office position I was working. The question was, even though it made sense logically, why couldn’t I make the changes emotionally? Ideas are fantastic in theory, but actually believing- well that is an entirely different monster to conquer.
I had to remember something that my good friend Megan taught me. When you let something go from your life, whether it is a person, a job, or that old cocktail dress that hasn’t fit you for years (I’ll wear it again, one day,…right?) the loss is difficult. All those things-represent who you once were (ahhh the days when I looked absolutely fab in that dress!) Megan eloquently put it as, “Even if what you have is only 75%-when it’s gone, the loss is still 100%!”
Wow. What a concept. Think about that for a moment. When it’s gone, you loose 100% of it-even if it wasn’t entirely what you wanted. That is quite a good bye for something that wasn’t entirely fulfilling to begin with. Now wonder people grieve so deeply when it (what ever it is) has significant meaning. I guess, it’s because, for a series of mo
posted by Desiree Daniel @ 11:06 AM
0 Comments:
Post a Comment
<< Home