Relationships - The hottest topic out there?
Relationships. This is what life is really about. Maybe that is why the pursuit for “relationship” is one of the hottest topics out there. The market for relationship seekers is everywhere – magazines, TV, heck even online is dating. Unless you’ve been living in a cave (not the mars cave that Mr. Grey so delicately taught us about), but rather a secluded hole away from society, you’ll notice how concentrated our conscious is on finding love.
Last weekend, while browsing through my personal temple (Chapters), I gravitated towards a particular table labeled ‘relationships”. Intrigued, I checked out the scene…only to find a showcase of new titles, piled overtop one another just screaming for attention. Apparently, even the books were looking for someone to share a relationship with. There seemed to be a common theme happening- “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys”, “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Breakup Buddy”, “Be Honest: You’re Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve”. Wow. Ok. Is there something us gals aren’t getting? I mean these are statements, not book titles. Has it really come to this? To be so dam blunt, in order for us to actually understand there is something not quite right about our approach.
Perhaps my feelers were a little more sensitive than usual, since I was on route to a wedding - the first of six that I will attend this year. And I question why some people seem to be on par with relationships, while others aren’t? Or maybe it’s because everyone around me seems to be talking about relationships, searching for a love that will change everything.
The thing is we are at a time in our life when we don’t need to be with someone to survive. Independence is a reality. Now, we can actually choose, who we want to be with. And that makes a big difference in how we do things. What we want and what we won’t settle for. So we search.
Louise Hay wrote that love comes when we least expect it. Hunting for love never brings the right partner – it only creates longing and unhappiness. In fact love or the right person comes, when you are actively living, as the person you want to be. Interesting. I asked my friend (recently in love) about this, and he said, Des, unfortunately in life, very few will actually see your true value and worth, so make sure you always do. You are the one thing to always believe in, when you question if there is anything.
At the core, relationship is defined as a particular type of connection existing between people, or having dealings with each other. We have relationships with everything. We have relationships with our family, with our friends, with our work. But most importantly we have a relationship with our self. I guess if you become the person you desire, then really, you are creating the relationship you seek. The relationship with self is one of the harder ones to find. But it is there - I guess you just have to look at the self help table instead.
Last weekend, while browsing through my personal temple (Chapters), I gravitated towards a particular table labeled ‘relationships”. Intrigued, I checked out the scene…only to find a showcase of new titles, piled overtop one another just screaming for attention. Apparently, even the books were looking for someone to share a relationship with. There seemed to be a common theme happening- “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys”, “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Breakup Buddy”, “Be Honest: You’re Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve”. Wow. Ok. Is there something us gals aren’t getting? I mean these are statements, not book titles. Has it really come to this? To be so dam blunt, in order for us to actually understand there is something not quite right about our approach.
Perhaps my feelers were a little more sensitive than usual, since I was on route to a wedding - the first of six that I will attend this year. And I question why some people seem to be on par with relationships, while others aren’t? Or maybe it’s because everyone around me seems to be talking about relationships, searching for a love that will change everything.
The thing is we are at a time in our life when we don’t need to be with someone to survive. Independence is a reality. Now, we can actually choose, who we want to be with. And that makes a big difference in how we do things. What we want and what we won’t settle for. So we search.
Louise Hay wrote that love comes when we least expect it. Hunting for love never brings the right partner – it only creates longing and unhappiness. In fact love or the right person comes, when you are actively living, as the person you want to be. Interesting. I asked my friend (recently in love) about this, and he said, Des, unfortunately in life, very few will actually see your true value and worth, so make sure you always do. You are the one thing to always believe in, when you question if there is anything.
At the core, relationship is defined as a particular type of connection existing between people, or having dealings with each other. We have relationships with everything. We have relationships with our family, with our friends, with our work. But most importantly we have a relationship with our self. I guess if you become the person you desire, then really, you are creating the relationship you seek. The relationship with self is one of the harder ones to find. But it is there - I guess you just have to look at the self help table instead.
posted by Desiree Daniel @ 9:33 AM
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