A Little Piece on Embarrassment
It’s common to judge our actions after the fact. There is a reason why hindsight is twenty – twenty. If only I knew then, what I know now -life would be so much easier. But, you can’t turn back time and what’s done is done. There’s no need to feel the embarrassment of awkward situations (tripping in front of rush hour traffic). Right?! So, I find comfort in the theory that sometimes we do things to know we won’t do them again. It happened so we can learn from it (wear comfortable shoes and be cognizant of each step until you are safe on the other side of the road) and move on. Hopefully.
Embarrassment. We’ve all tangled ourselves in its web of self-consciousness. Those haunting moments that prove we may just be human – and not perfect. Thus in honor of being humbled I’ve compiled a list of things I hope I have learned from and therefore will not do again.
1. Making decisions after a few glasses of wine. Yes, this may seem like common sense but for some reason everything makes sense after a beverage. Like singing karaoke with no back up music…for example. But the lesson came to a head last week when my buddy and I decided to go to Capote-post vino. Some words of advice, don’t watch an intense drama after drinking an intense red. As a result, I fell asleep. And when asked to review the details of this golden globe nominee, about a North American icon, all I could say was “I need to watch it again, to really absorb the finer points of the film.”
2. Lip syncing with the curtains open. It was a beautiful day, the sun was shining, and the music was blaring. I felt the urge to sing and dance and my mirror played the role of “audience” on my make belief stage. It wasn’t until I opened my eyes in mid lyric that I noticed another image in my mirror – that of a neighbour watching me from outside. Apparently if you can see out of the window…people can also see in.
3. Listening to myself on voice mail. I now realize - you leave messages for a reason. To leave it – not to revisit it over and over. There is a magical option on voice mail that allows you to listen to yourself and ensure your message is just perfect. Once I discovered this tool I became addicted. During the first dates with a new guy I utilized the feature “hey it’s Des…yada, yada, yada” (reviewed it – yikes-didn’t like the sound-redo) “hi, it’s Desiree how are you….yada yada yada” (reviewed it- yikes-didn’t like the sound-redo). Four times I went through this process, each one with a slightly different feel. What I didn’t know was that the person on the other line could in fact his screen calls and also listen to the “redo”. Finally he cut in and asked rather sarcastically “are you going to leave a message or not?”
Yes, there have been many occasions that I have learned from. At least that is what I tell myself when I cringe with feelings of “ew”. I am finding the more I get embarrassed, the less embarrassed I get. Especially when you can use the
Embarrassment. We’ve all tangled ourselves in its web of self-consciousness. Those haunting moments that prove we may just be human – and not perfect. Thus in honor of being humbled I’ve compiled a list of things I hope I have learned from and therefore will not do again.
1. Making decisions after a few glasses of wine. Yes, this may seem like common sense but for some reason everything makes sense after a beverage. Like singing karaoke with no back up music…for example. But the lesson came to a head last week when my buddy and I decided to go to Capote-post vino. Some words of advice, don’t watch an intense drama after drinking an intense red. As a result, I fell asleep. And when asked to review the details of this golden globe nominee, about a North American icon, all I could say was “I need to watch it again, to really absorb the finer points of the film.”
2. Lip syncing with the curtains open. It was a beautiful day, the sun was shining, and the music was blaring. I felt the urge to sing and dance and my mirror played the role of “audience” on my make belief stage. It wasn’t until I opened my eyes in mid lyric that I noticed another image in my mirror – that of a neighbour watching me from outside. Apparently if you can see out of the window…people can also see in.
3. Listening to myself on voice mail. I now realize - you leave messages for a reason. To leave it – not to revisit it over and over. There is a magical option on voice mail that allows you to listen to yourself and ensure your message is just perfect. Once I discovered this tool I became addicted. During the first dates with a new guy I utilized the feature “hey it’s Des…yada, yada, yada” (reviewed it – yikes-didn’t like the sound-redo) “hi, it’s Desiree how are you….yada yada yada” (reviewed it- yikes-didn’t like the sound-redo). Four times I went through this process, each one with a slightly different feel. What I didn’t know was that the person on the other line could in fact his screen calls and also listen to the “redo”. Finally he cut in and asked rather sarcastically “are you going to leave a message or not?”
Yes, there have been many occasions that I have learned from. At least that is what I tell myself when I cringe with feelings of “ew”. I am finding the more I get embarrassed, the less embarrassed I get. Especially when you can use the
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